Why a 10-year-old is giving advice to Congress Article added by Lisa McLeod on April 29, 2011
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Don't say bad things about each other. Listen when the other people talk. Don't mess with other people's stuff. Can you imagine the look on a congressman's face when a 4th grader innocently asks, "Do you think rules like this might help you all stop fighting and get more work done?"
"Why do congressmen say such mean things about each other? We're not allowed to act like that in class. We have rules about respecting each other. Do you think something like that might help you?"
He was only 10 years old, but his question made several congressmen squirm.
His name is Colyne. He's from Gwinnett County, Georgia. He, his mother and his older brother were part of a group of private citizens who went to Washington, D.C. with me to meet with several members of Congress.
We had one goal: Get Congress to establish best practices for civil discourse.
I've utilized best practices to stop turf wars in other organizations, and I can promise you, it works.
Colyne heads up the Hill to Congress.
Getting a group of bickering leaders to agree to guidelines like, "We're going to attack problems, not people," provides you with a framework for holding people accountable.
People agree to the guidelines thinking that it will make the "other side" shape up. But once they've agreed to them, they have to adhere to the same principles themselves.
It works in business, it works in a classroom and we believe it could make a big difference in Congress.
Colyne's teacher might not be a CEO or congresswoman, but like any good leader, she clearly understands the value of establishing guidelines for the way people treat each other.
Here are the class rules Colyne shared with members of Congress:
Can you imagine the look on a congressman's face when a 4th grader innocently asks, "Do you think rules like this might help you all stop fighting and get more work done?"
How can they possibly justify not following principles like that?
- Don't say bad things about each other.
- Listen when the other people talk.
- Don't mess with other people's stuff.
Colyne's reaction as his mom tries to explain how Congress really works.
Margaret Mead once said, "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed it is the only thing that ever has."
It's funny how when you decide to do the right thing, the universe has a way of helping you along.
Here's the back story: Colyne came to Congress as the result of a sales meeting and a Facebook group. His mother runs a sales team. After I did a program for her group, she took home a copy of my conflict resolution book, where Colyne read it.
Around the same time, people started a Facebook group and they got Penguin to donate a copy for every member of the House and Senate.
When we decided to hand deliver the books, Colyne and his mother offered to come along. Newspapers ran stories about it. People started calling their congressmen and senators. More people came forward — Republicans and Democrats — offering to pay their own expenses to D.C. with us. They desperately wanted Congress to stop fighting and start solving problems.
Colyne meeting with Senate staff.
The week before we left, The Washington Post picked my book as a Top 5 Book for Leaders. Suddenly we were able to get appointments with several offices.
Colyne and team were so effective that the 16 Republican and Democratic Congressmen who represent Georgia agreed to call a meeting to discuss establishing best practices for civil discourse.
If a 10-year-old and a group of private citizens from Georgia can get leaders from both sides of the aisle to come together to talk about civility, who knows what might happen next?
Changing the world can be lonely work. Colyne walking the halls of Congress.
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