Become a master of change
By Anne Bachrach
A.M. Enterprises (The Accountability Coach)
The thought of change sends most of us into a panic attack. For some of us, we might fear change because it disrupts our sense of security and consistency by challenging our perceptions. But as much as we crave stability and security, change is an inevitable part of life and we can either choose to embrace it or resist it.
From the minute we are born, our body remains in constant change, and resisting it only makes it harder to get through. Resistance doesn't come about because we purposely want to go against the grain; we do it because we're fearful of the unknown outcome. We don't know what's on the other side and for no rational reason, we resist it, believing this will help us.
The fear of change comes from the fact that change challenges the perceptions and beliefs that our life is built upon. When change challenges our perceptions, we are forced to step outside of our comfort zone, and that's often an uncomfortable place to be. Additionally, when our perceptions are challenged, so is the ground our life is built upon. Through change, we are forced to refine perceptions and belief systems that we've always thought were true. Let's face it, when the very perceptions and belief systems your life is built on are threatened, it can be uncomfortable. But it can also be very rewarding and exciting.
Change is the inevitable constant refinement of our being. Whether you want it or not, change is inevitable. Inaction and resistance cannot completely stop change; they will only lessen your personal growth and add frustration to your life. You will become stagnant and remain inside the boundaries of a very limited life, while everyone and everything grows around you. Wouldn't you like to discover your potential? What about becoming a better person for you, your family and the world?
Life is really a series of changes, and each change is a challenge. It's an opportunity for us to learn, to grow and to expand. Changes can be small or large, but they each bring the opportunity to learn something new about yourself and the world around you.
You learn from each challenge, and become more adept at applying what you've learned to future growth. Change actually becomes much easier to handle because when you come out the other side, you gain valuable skills and experiences that you can apply to the rest of your life. Instead of being fearful, you may even have fun becoming more open to change, because you know your life will be that much better in the long run.
With constant refinement of our perceptions and beliefs, change tranforms from something that sends us into a panic attack into just another task we successfully complete. It goes from being a major incident to a whole new exciting adventure. With every change you make in your life, you become more adept at building solid ground — no matter what the situation — and rationally dealing with your fear instead of allowing your perceptions to falsely magnify it. Change becomes fun and exciting, and you learn to actually welcome it.
Here's how you can become a master of change:
Inaction and resistance carry bigger consequences
There's no way around it. The decision to remain inactive or to resist change carries bigger consequences than choosing to face the change head-on. You are an ever-changing person in an ever-changing world, and resistance just adds fear and frustration to every situation. Learn to be open to creating new and exciting adventures.
Focus on the desired end result
Worrying about what might happen will not help you deal with what's at hand. Focus on where you want to be once the change is completed. The mind is a goal-achieving machine and will create your reality based on the thoughts you are focused upon. You want to keep your desired end result in mind at all times, and only think about what you want to happen. What got you to where you are today isn’t necessarily what will take you where you want to be. Look at your long-range desired results and embark on a new journey to even greater outcomes.
Rationalize your fear
Fear is usually the result of our mind creating hypothetical dramas that have no basis in reality. If you find yourself fearful of the outcome of an impending change, ask yourself what you're really afraid of. There is a solution to everything and when you rationalize your fear, you can ususally see that you are going to be just fine. You can just suck it up, and as Nike says, “Just Do It.” Do what you are afraid of doing and reap the benefits. You will quickly discover that the experience of change wasn’t worth all that anxiety about the unknown. Each time you rationalize the fear, you will have greater courage to "Just Do It" in the future.
Break major changes into manageable pieces
It is often necessary to break major changes down into smaller, manageable pieces. It's much easier to identify a solution when you can apply a strategy to deal with each step. When you know what you're going to do each step of the way, it becomes easier to achieve your end result with confidence.
Last but not least, celebrate your victories. Each time you felt the fear and did it anyway, you were victorious and reaped the benefits of showing that you are a champion. Little by little, you'll learn to trust your abilities more and to handle anything that comes your way. When you rationalize the fear and create successful strategies, you come out a winner on the other side. Look at change as a fun and exciting adventure. Reap the many rewards!
You can resist change, but only temporarily. When you resist the natural flow of the world, which is based on change, your life becomes a series of challenges that are amplified by your resistance. Resist them and you become a victim. Embrace them and you become a true master of change.
"Life and business are like the changing seasons.
You can't change the seasons, but you can change yourself."
— Jim Rohn